We’re already half-way through January. How did that happen? Regardless, I thought I’d make a quick post about my aims for 2020 in the hope it will keep me accountable. I’ve decided to keep it simple this year.
My new year’s resolutions are:
1. Don’t drink
2. Let go
If you read my last blog then the first one is going to be no surprise to you. Drinking wasn’t doing me any favours or adding any real value to my life. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve done a lot of great things whilst drinking over the years and had a lot of fun, but by the end, it was taking more than it was giving. If you’re doing Dry January this year, then I salute you. If you’re not doing Dry January, then support the people that are and don’t be a dick by trying to get them to drink with you. Abstaining is a hard thing to do in a society that normalises, and on a lot of occasions, glorifies drinking. I did a bunch of Dry January’s and Sober October’s myself, but I usually used them to convince myself I didn’t have a destructive relationship with booze – if that’s you, then I would urge you to be mindful of that, especially if you find your drinking ramping back up come February. If you already caved in to the booze, then maybe it’s time to ask yourself whether it’s something you should let go of.
Which brings me neatly on to my next resolution. Let go. I think we all need to remember that we can’t change the past, and we can’t predict the future. All we have is now. So if we find ourselves worrying about the future and obsessing over all the possible ways things might pan out, then we should ask ourselves one question – “Is this helping?”. I think it’s fine to do a certain level of preparation for uncertainty. That’s normal. Having a plan, goals, aspirations or whatever is fine. The problem comes when we get into the type of obsessive thought patterns that don’t help and if we’re really honest with ourselves, only lead to suffering. Science has proven that we largely don’t control the thoughts that pop into our heads. They come from our subconscious; a place that is trained over a long period of time by our environment and our habits. So when that same negative thought pops into our heads for the 14th time that day, rather than going down the rabbit hole again we can simply acknowledge it for what it is – just a thought. If we can do something to change the situation we find ourselves in, then we should do it. But if not, then obsessing over it isn’t going to help, it’s just going to cause anxiety and ultimately make us miserable. We don’t have to react to the thought. We have the power to let go and move on.
What are you holding on to that you should let go of?